A guardian is a person or people who will assume legal, moral and financially responsible for your children should something happen to you and your spouse
You do not have to appoint a guardian for your minor children. However, if you do not, the courts will decide who will look after them if no other person with parental rights survives you.
Choosing a guardian can be one of the most important parts of your Will. The guardian will be responsible for making decisions regarding the day-to-day control and care of your children, including decisions about their upbringing, education, health and welfare.
The decision to nominate someone as a guardian is a serious decision that should be made carefully. Guardian(s) are usually a family member or close friend.
There are three main considerations that you should bear in mind when choosing who to select as guardian of your child/children:
- How do you want your child raised?
While we all want the best for our kids, most of us have very different ideas of what good parenting looks like. Whether it is the values we want them raised to espouse, the kind of lifestyle we want to them lead, or even the diet we believe they should have, these are all important considerations that factor into your parenting style. You should make sure to select a guardian who is likely to raise your kids in a similar fashion to how you would like them raised, so you have peace of mind about their future if you weren’t here to take care of them.
- The lifestyle impact of certain guardians on your child
The death of a parent is a jarring, difficult time for a child. On top of the emotional transition they are going through, it is important that extra stress is not placed on them by thrusting your child into a completely new and foreign physical space.
For instance if your choice of guardian lives overseas or interstate, or perhaps you are close friends with someone whose kids have radically different lifestyles to your own, you may want to take that into account to make sure that the lifestyle impact on your child is minimised as much as possible. Moving schools, adhering to new schedules and changing activities can all be traumatic for a child. The less change that they have to undergo will make the process emotionally and logistically less difficult than it otherwise already is.
- A guardian’s capacity to accept the responsibility
Often parents will nominate a grandparent to take responsibility of guardianship over the child or give guardianship to a relative or friend that already has children of their own. It is however always important (and particularly so when the guardian has multiple children themselves) to make sure that an appointed guardian has the ability to care for your children.
This may change due to age or sickness, or because a person who was nominated all of a sudden has a few kids of their own. You should be considering the guardianship appointment whenever your circumstances, or those of your nominated guardian, change, to ensure ongoing suitability to take care of your kids.
- Consider appointing a backup guardian
Given the importance of guardianship, it is a good idea to consider naming a back-up guardian, in case your primary guardian is unable or unwilling to take care of your child.